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I have a pessimistic personality. How pessimistic you ask? I will use the 'is the glass half full or half empty' illustration. I do not care if it is half full or half empty, it is probably poison, so leave it alone.

My husband, aka the Man, is an optimist, and he sees things differently than I do. And he is always saying, 'it is how you see things, as to what it will be'. It's only taken 26 years, but I see his point. We have a son (aka the Boy). And while he was growing up, he was always asking me to make him something. From age 2 to 6, he -always- wore a cape where ever he went. He loved batman. So of course I made him capes and masks, because I could sew and I like to create things.

I am very crafty, I like to make little things that I do not really need. The Man doesn't understand that, there should be a need first, else you are wasting your time. The Boy isn't crafty either. So I am alone in my room usually, as I make things 'I do not really need'.

The Boy is a little like me and a little like his father, but mostly he is a person unto himself. Some nights I have to leave the room because my head is spinning from he and the Man talking quantum physics and mathematical equations that go over my head. I retreat to my sewing room, or my happy place, where I can create, piddle, sew or craft to my hearts content without having brain bending scenarios thrown at me. Usually is them vs me. IF we had had a daughter, I can see it being 'us vs the Man', but we had a son.

Occasionally (ok more than occasionally) I will lament how they pick on me, and how unfair it is. But the other day.. it was 'us vs the man'. Us being the Boy and I! The man had asked a question about some fabric, and wouldn't it be easy to do ....?

Now you must understand, my husband aka the Man, is an engineer and tool and die machinist. He can make things out of metal and hold tolerances to the .0001 of an inch. So in his mind.. fabric anything should be easy.

Before I could tell the Man how flawed his thinking was, the Boy piped up and explained in mechanical detail (so that the Man would understand) how it would not work the way the Man presumed.  It was a great thing.  It wasn't so much that the Man was 'wrong'. Rather, it was that my son was right and it meant that all those times when I made him capes, masks, costumes etc and dragged him with me to pick out the fabric for said costumes - he had listened!

The Boy would always pick out unsuitable fabrics, when we went fabric shopping for his costumes. And I would explain in detail why the slick shiny fabric would not hold up to the wear and tear I knew was coming. But here, years later, (the Boy is 23 now) he knew the answer and explained it so well to the Man. (The question was about velvet and surely we would only need 2 or 3 yards, instead of the 15 yards I said we would need. The Boy explained about the nap, and the need for the nap to all go the same direction. And it would be best to have one continuous length, instead of a lot of little pieces sewn together.)

It seems I may have taken some things for granted with a pessimistic twist; and now that I reflect back on them, it's like the Man said, looking at things from a different point of view can make a negative into a positive. I always thought it a shame no one shared my enthusiasm in fabrics and sewing with me. BUT if I look at it another way, I succeeded in teaching the Boy about fabric, and maybe.. just maybe I can grow that little seed.

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Comment by Mary on April 26, 2011 at 9:28am
You have a way of telling a story Susan, thanks.  Makes me smile to know that our kids are listening and cool is that.
Comment by Valerie Carroll on April 22, 2011 at 4:43pm

Loved this story.  Reminded me of a talk I had with my youngest 27 yr old boy just last night.  I found out he was paying more attention to what I was doing then my daughter 35 yr old.  He has even made a pair of boxers and did a very good job.  I quite shocked and very pleased.

You are a very GOOD writer. 

Comment by Mary Lou on April 21, 2011 at 7:03pm
Love this story! Glad to hear the kids are listening ;]
Comment by jodijean on April 21, 2011 at 4:09pm
LOVE it!  i like to think i'm teaching my children too ... we shall see if any of it sticks (they are 4 and 2)
Comment by Patty on April 21, 2011 at 1:52pm

Very will written!  I felt like we were sitting across from each other over a cup of tea!

Comment by Susan Ferriola on April 21, 2011 at 1:49pm
Thank you all for those kind words! =D
Comment by Julie Rose on April 21, 2011 at 11:09am
Beautifully written, thoroughly enjoyed : )
Comment by Angee Barbe on April 21, 2011 at 11:07am
Very well said!  Good job mamma!
Comment by MartiB on April 21, 2011 at 9:25am
You are a fantastic writer!  And a great mama!
Comment by becky price on April 21, 2011 at 9:11am
Well said.  Good mommy!  Isn't it amazing how kids pick up what we think they are ignoring?

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